2.Goodness Filter - Is what you are about to tell me about someone something good?
3. Usefulness Filter - Is what you want to tell me about someone going to be useful to me?
If what you want to discuss is neither true, nor good, nor even useful, why discussing it at all? There is no neutrality in crisis either agree or disagree conscientiously. Loyalty and Honesty is very expensive don't expect it from cheap people, be accountable for your life.!