Encounter With Strangers

During one of my walking exercise in the nature i encountered 2 elderly strangers, probably between 55 - 65 years old. When one of them saw me approaching she waved at me so i went to meet with them. They told me that they were actually looking for how to get to one store, and it has been very difficult for them to get there.

So i told them that i know the store and it's located inside a very big Mall in that area but is actually hard to get there from the point of meeting with them. The best way to direct them is to show them the shopping Mall through under ground walkway crossing to the other side of the road.

I was actually on my way to city centre after walking to pick some food items for cooking. It took us about 10-15 minutes walking distance to reach the shopping Mall.Before we reached the Mall i also showed them how to locate the bus stand for going back to their destination and they thanked me alot for my time and efforts in helping them out. When i am about to leave them one of them asked me smiling if i have someone in my life because she can introduce me to one of  relative i told her yes i have. She asked me again with a smile if i can accompany them further to the shopping Mall but wait outside for them until they finish shopping. I smiled back but told her that i am already late i have a bus to catch would  have loved to wait further. We exchanged final goodbye greetings and i left.

What i realized from this experience is to show kindness to others and as well to yourself. I also recognized that kindness can be tested especially when you go extra mile to help in the world full of uncertainties. Don't let the thoughts of people judging your intentions prevent you from being kind. Be kind to others and for yourself as well know when to say yes and when to say no unapologetically. Kindness can open doors of opportunities for your career aspirations, be Kind be firm and be confident.

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Modesty and Pride Principles

Modesty literally means 'the fact of not talking much about your abilities or possession. Sometimes modesty and humility are used interchangeably. Humility is all about self and how you treat yourself. While modesty is about others and how you make them feel about themselves as well as about yourself.Pride is all about self satisfaction, achievements, the feeling that you are better or more important than other people.The feeling of pride can also be connected to the achievements of other people closer to us or other people we like.

When you examine the concept of  modesty and pride further, you can agree with me that there is nothing wrong in one being modest or pride. What matters are the circumstance and situations when it applies. Modesty is a great virtue and modest people are very likeable. Pride is also a good thing because is something intrinsic in human being.Some element of pride will push you to act accordingly.

In Psychology there is the concept of individual differences which means that every individual is unique in nature.One need to build and develop high level of emotional intelligence in other to deal with difference personalities. 

The best way in my own opinion about analyzing modesty and pride is to be consistent in one's natural abilities, skills and personalities.Modesty is a very good virtue but one should not let it make you shy away from showing up where your talents skills set are needed. Don't let modesty deprive you from your worth, never allowed modesty makes people to take your considerate personality for granted, don't let modesty makes you remain stagnant. 

You Can be anything you choose to be when you deserve and work hard to achieve it. Don't let modesty deprive you from celebrating your success and hard work in a very sensible way. Being too proud and arrogant is a great turn off and dislikeable atitude. Always showing yourself and not giving other  people chance to speak and contribute is not very encouraging.

Pride can cost someone alot of fortune so does modesty. Having the ability to balance both judiciously is the key to success. According to M.Angelou ' when someone shows you who they are believe them the first time.'Also she opined that ' people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.'Be your own individual and do what works for you. You can be an introvert yet very arrogant and proud. You can be extroverted yet very humble and modest. You can also be an introvert and very modest and extroverted and very proud. Modesty and pride has nothing to do with individual natural uniqueness, they have everything to do with one's upbringing, enviroment, peer influence, ethics, morality and education. Nobility springs from the soul not by blood.

How someone feels inside of them is a direct reflection of how they treat other people. Also the treatment you accept from others is a direct reflection of how much you think you are worth from the inside. Both modesty and pride can be applicable for greater good,you can be modest but also confident.

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